Comments on: Tossing the Oreo: A Simple Solution for Communicating Your Frustrations http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/ Create your future. Solve problems. Impact eternity. Live - really live - today. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:32:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Andy Wood http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-264 Andy Wood Tue, 22 Apr 2008 14:03:49 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-264 @carissa: Thanks! I appreciate the feedback. I have noticed that EVERYBODY has a technique. And a lot of those Christians who dismiss counseling techniques will teach classes on their Bible Study technique, or run off to a conference to learn the latest church growth technique. Oh, and for all of those biblicists out there, (I'm one, too), if you want to see Tossing the Oreo in action, take a look at how the Lord Jesus handled the church at Ephesus in Revelation 2:1-7. 1. I know your works (cookie) 2. You've left your first love (filling) 3. He who overcomes (cookie) 4. Remember, repent, and do the first works (toss). Yes, this is in a different order. But all the components are there. @carissa:

Thanks! I appreciate the feedback. I have noticed that EVERYBODY has a technique. And a lot of those Christians who dismiss counseling techniques will teach classes on their Bible Study technique, or run off to a conference to learn the latest church growth technique.

Oh, and for all of those biblicists out there, (I’m one, too), if you want to see Tossing the Oreo in action, take a look at how the Lord Jesus handled the church at Ephesus in Revelation 2:1-7.

1. I know your works (cookie)
2. You’ve left your first love (filling)
3. He who overcomes (cookie)
4. Remember, repent, and do the first works (toss).

Yes, this is in a different order. But all the components are there.

]]> By: carissa http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-260 carissa Tue, 22 Apr 2008 06:55:19 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-260 i happened to come across your blog and i just have to say that it both amuses me and pleases me to see the stuff i learned in my Communication Studies major being used in real life - in Christian counseling, no less! i find it frustrating that a lot of Christians i know dismiss techniques like this as fruity, superfluous, worldly, etc. but i think they're helpful and, though cheesy at first, can make for really transformative, godly communication. :D i happened to come across your blog and i just have to say that it both amuses me and pleases me to see the stuff i learned in my Communication Studies major being used in real life – in Christian counseling, no less! i find it frustrating that a lot of Christians i know dismiss techniques like this as fruity, superfluous, worldly, etc. but i think they’re helpful and, though cheesy at first, can make for really transformative, godly communication. :D

]]> By: Andy Wood http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-254 Andy Wood Fri, 18 Apr 2008 14:50:21 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-254 @the Puritan Hitman: Yes, PH, there actually is. The Pastoral Oreo Tossing Society (POTS), of which I am the founding (and only) member, actually has several variations on the Oreo tossing technique. The "Double Stuff" to which you refer involves matching your complaint with a confession of your own shortcomings. In the above illustration, when Shane shares his feelings with Elaine ("It makes me feel panicky when I find receipts I didn't know anything about,") the Double Stuff technique would add a confession something like this: "Of course, I know I also spend money on things and forget to record it." OR, "I know I can be a little insensitive about your needs or ungrateful about all you do, and I'm sorry." Double-stuffing does NOT mean adding additional layers of your partner's/employee's/friend's offenses inside the same cookie. It's here that we at POTS part company with our friends at Nabisco. @the Puritan Hitman:

Yes, PH, there actually is. The Pastoral Oreo Tossing Society (POTS), of which I am the founding (and only) member, actually has several variations on the Oreo tossing technique. The “Double Stuff” to which you refer involves matching your complaint with a confession of your own shortcomings. In the above illustration, when Shane shares his feelings with Elaine (“It makes me feel panicky when I find receipts I didn’t know anything about,”) the Double Stuff technique would add a confession something like this: “Of course, I know I also spend money on things and forget to record it.” OR, “I know I can be a little insensitive about your needs or ungrateful about all you do, and I’m sorry.”

Double-stuffing does NOT mean adding additional layers of your partner’s/employee’s/friend’s offenses inside the same cookie. It’s here that we at POTS part company with our friends at Nabisco.

]]> By: the Puritan Hitman http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-253 the Puritan Hitman Fri, 18 Apr 2008 14:32:48 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-253 Are there certain times to use the "Double Stuff" principle on this rule? Are there certain times to use the “Double Stuff” principle on this rule?

]]> By: Anita http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-251 Anita Thu, 17 Apr 2008 18:45:04 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-251 OK, gotta practice this one... thank you. Love those oreo cookies! OK, gotta practice this one… thank you. Love those oreo cookies!

]]> By: Robin Wood http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-248 Robin Wood Thu, 17 Apr 2008 01:04:03 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-248 That would be MY husband who has so eloquently communicated this creative and oh so delicious means of communication for marriage therapy. It is absolutely incredible babe!!!! That would be MY husband who has so eloquently communicated this creative and oh so delicious means of communication for marriage therapy. It is absolutely incredible babe!!!!

]]> By: Terry Richardson http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/comment-page-1/#comment-247 Terry Richardson Wed, 16 Apr 2008 15:15:32 +0000 http://www.lifevesting.com/blog/2008/04/16/tossing-the-oreo-a-simple-solution-for-communicating-your-frustrations/#comment-247 Now that is great advice. I will use it myself, and, share it with people I love. Now that is great advice. I will use it myself, and, share it with people I love.

]]>